Being a parent is exhausting. Usually at the end of the day, if my sanity is still somewhat intact, my kids basic needs are met and they managed to not kill each other, I would have considered it a success. However, I have been thinking alot about that. Is parenthood simply just surviving the day? I recently heard a talk that inspired me to go from being a surviving mom to a thriving mom (especially in terms of the Faith I wish to pass on to my children).
I have started to feel as if I’m doing just enough to get by…but I want to do more than that. I don’t want to be “good enough.” I want to be “excellent” – in my mothering, in my vocation as a wife and as a disciple of Christ.
Here are a few things I have decided to work on:
1. Bring my kids to at least 2 daily Masses a week. The only reason Mary has learned to say “please” is because everyday I make her repeatedly say it if she wants something. What makes me think she is going to behave on Sunday if she only experiences it once a week?
2. Look for community events where my kids can socially interact with other kids. Today we went to the library and it was wonderful! I can never get Mary to color for longer than 5 minutes at home but when she was around others doing the same thing she stayed there for almost 30 minutes making beautiful works of art! She really impressed me with her behavior and focus!
3. Constantly research activities that will help my children continue to develop in all areas of their lives. They grow so fast and are hungry for new ways to exert their independence or learn new things. I need to make sure I foster that growth.
Sometimes the idea of getting the kids dressed, their bags packed, and loading them in the car to go to a place where timeout is not readily available is daunting. At times this prevents me from going anywhere. In order to thrive I need to accept that it might be difficult, but to suck it up and let my family explore how we are all growing together. Worst case scenario – my kids throw a fit at the given venue and we have to leave. Best case scenario – they learn and have fun experiencing new things!
I pray this is the beginning of my new surviving to thriving movement.